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How would you feel, if you're GHOSTED?!
Mental exhaustion follows ghosting especially when the person who had ghosted you was once someone whom you confide in. Someone who promised to stay even though there's a quake, and (s)he had proven it many times. However, the person stopped calling and messaging you all of a sudden. Even when you tried to do the aforementioned, the person gave you cold responses or attitudes, which suggested you were no longer needed again. We are all human beings, and our emotions drag us often, even though we don't like to admit it. Sometimes, we put out captions that romanticize our self-deceptions: the lies we tell ourselves.
“I have stopped thinking about people who disappeared when I needed them” That could be your caption to one of the colourful pictures you uploaded on your social media page. Indeed, these people might not be insignificant to you anymore, but there are days you sit and rack your brain to know why the person ghosted you, then you begin to remember the sheen memories you have had together. This time around, you are racking your brain so you could add to your life lessons, not to amend a declined relationship. As you do this, you remember the person again, so it's mendacious to say you have stopped thinking about the person who ghosted you. Forgetfulness is one of the curses of mankind. Humans don't forget. We only find a way to distract ourselves.
The fear of being ghosted is one of the reasons people refrain from going into a romantic relationship with their friends. They know relationships come with complexities which make one look inexperienced. Those who have been ghosted before know what they experienced during that period. The other party was never inactive on all his or social media accounts or pages, yet they went all day without initiating any conversation. The other party became a ghost they see but can't touch.
Ghosting is even worse when you see the person every day on the street, yet there's no exchange of hellos. The street that you both had walked many times holding hands with your faces beaming with smiles. All these things make people eschew going into a romantic relationship with their friends. They value friendship over any kind of relationship, so they are not ready to forfeit it. They don't want to see a friend walk by them and pretend as though (s)he didn't see them.
Ghosting is inhumane. Why do you have to ghost the person that sees the universe through you? Why do you make people give up on love when they should be giving up on you? One may want to ask why people ghost a person who once stayed with them. People who ghost are emotional criminals. They are dwindlers. Once they squeeze the juice in you and they become satisfied, they dump you to move on with another person.
Despite ghosting being a thing of some humans, it's important that you don't allow it to destroy the beautiful thing you should have built with that guy or lady, whether you have been ghosted before or you have read about ghosting somewhere. The presence of the right person in your life makes you love again. It'll be as if you haven't fallen in love before as the feelings become mint. The right person makes your past “loves” to be insignificant.
Ghosting might come, nonetheless; you should not allow it ruin your chance of living with the “messiah”. Live & Love!
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