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How do you view sex before marriage?
Sex is one the hackneyed words used in our world today. Despite this, it's one of the topics most people don't have a complete or fair knowledge of because it's predominantly being discussed from a point of warning and not from the expository level. In Nigeria, 70% of parents don't teach their children about sex, they only warn them to stay away from it. To them, it's optimal sex education. This is why a girl who'd engaged in many sexual activities that didn't involve vaginal penetration thinks she hasn't had sex in her entire life. Her knowledge about sex is shallow; she's one of those who think sex revolves around vaginal penetration alone. The sex ranges across a spectrum of activities like vaginal sex, oral sex, anal sex, mutual masturbation and others. Anyone who had engaged in the aforementioned kinds of sex has simply engaged in sex.
Sex is one of the essential human needs. It's needed for your emotional well-being. People have sex for different reasons. It could be for pleasure or procreation. Nonetheless, it's noteworthy to know sex may not be an element of every relationship. The question as whether having sex before marriage has been one of the most controversial in the human world, especially in a religious continent like Africa. This is where people's beliefs come to play. Oftentimes, I see people who abstain from sex look at those who do otherwise scornfully. You must know those who practice premarital sex are not misfits; also, those who wait till their wedding night before they allow sex are not religious. I have been asked many times if a guy who moves out from a relationship because his lover couldn't offer him sex when he asked for it is in love or lust. Sex strengthens the bond between two partners because affection is involved in the activity and it's best enjoyed when the two parties involved want it. Convincing your partner who doesn't share the same ideology with you on sex will impede the enjoyment to be gotten. Hence, partners should reach an agreement on sexual activities before forming any relationship
It's apparent there are two active parties in this discussion of premarital sex. One believes premarital sex is a sin while the other believes sex is an expression of love, so they need to communicate with the expression when in any relationship. The following are the misconceptions about premarital sex: It makes you lose your dignity. It reduces love in a relationship. Premarital sex doesn't do any of this but your partner's intentions.
However, the downside of premarital sex is that makes an individual to be expectant, for s(he) always wants surpassing sexual energy from his or her partner in every relationship s(he) gets into. Nonetheless, this is not a reason to scorn those who practice premarital sex as everything beneficial has its demerit.
What do you think??
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About the Author
Ifenaike Ifedapo Ayomipo is a Nigerian writer whose works have been published or are forthcoming on The Quills, The Transit Lit Magazine, Naija Mad Hotstars, Kalahari Review, IceFloe Press, CovidHQ Africa, Shallow Tales Review, Institutionalized Review, Whetstone Magazine and elsewhere. Also, he's a promising Educationist and public speaker.