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How do you know a healthy relationship?
When the question of what a healthy relationship is being asked, some people think it's a relationship that is not susceptible to conflict. However, it is not so. No relationship is not vulnerable to disagreement. One of the propellants of a healthy relationship is the effective deployment of conflict management and resolution skills. Certainly, the conflict will surface; nonetheless, the ability of partners to manage and resolve it so it will not escalate further is what establishes a healthy relationship. It may interest you to know that twins who were born on the same day and who also shared the same womb disagree sometimes—this tells you that even the most intimate relationships are permeable for conflicts.
Now, what are the characteristics of a healthy relationship? What makes a relationship earn the bag, HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP?
- Trust
First, is the dominant presence of TRUST. The significance of the aforementioned is not often emphasized. I tell you: trust should predate love. Your heart is invaluable. Declaring your love for someone simply means you are entrusting your heart to the person. So, how do you entrust your heart to someone you don't trust? Going into a relationship with another person means you have trusted the person enough to love him or her, so you see trust predates love. In a relationship in which trust is dominant, toxicity has already been neutralised.
After TRUST has been established, LOVE comes in to manifest itself fully. On the tree of LOVE, PATIENCE, KINDNESS, INTEGRITY and other positive attributes can be found. All these attributes are propellants of a healthy relationship.
- Constant Communication
Also, EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION is not the same as CONSTANT COMMUNICATION. The two should not be mistaken for each other. You could have constant communication with your partner, still, effective communication could be missing. Effective Communication is simply the ability to convey information to another effectively and efficiently. Effective communication translates to understanding every bit of information passed and understanding and respecting the emotions behind it. Effective communication allows you to share your vulnerabilities with your partner without hiding them.
What do you think??
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About the Author
Ifenaike Ifedapo Ayomipo is a Nigerian writer whose works have been published or are forthcoming on The Quills, The Transit Lit Magazine, Naija Mad Hotstars, Kalahari Review, IceFloe Press, CovidHQ Africa, Shallow Tales Review, Institutionalized Review, Whetstone Magazine and elsewhere. Also, he's a promising Educationist and public speaker.